One way to lead your marriage to destruction is to put technology before your spouse. Today this trend is becoming more common. Why can't we put our computers and phones away and just spend time with our spouse? What happened to the days where couples communicated face-to-face without distractions?
Don't let this happen to your marriage. Take time to reflect on your relationship and be honest with yourself about your technology use. Are you finding more enjoyment in your technology then in your spouse? Are you more excited to spend time on the computer then talking with your spouse? Are your Facebook and other "social media" friends more important to you then your spouse?
Being on the receiving end of this type of relationship can be extremely lonely. There are times when personally I feel like I mean little to my husband or that I no longer interest him because of the time he spends connected to other things besides me. Have you ever felt this way? Have you ever considered how your spouse feels when you always have your face pointed at a screen? Is your intimacy suffering because of it?
I challenge you to fast from technology and reignite a spark in your marriage. Don't downplay the significance of your misuse. Once loneliness enters a marriage, depression or adultery is not far behind. Be proactive and take your marriage back! Put God first and then your husband or wife! Technology MUST be last.
My husband and I have dealt with his addictions for most of our relationship. Historically, when things are goingwonderfully and all the pieces in our lives are in the right place, my husband will fall. This kind of fall is so intense that it affects our relationship, our household, our finances, and our ministry. Learning to pick those pieces back up is very difficult, and at one time in our journey, it felt impossible. October, 2010 was the worst fall in the history of our marriage. At this point he had built up everything he wanted in life. Not only did he obtain his musical dreams, but he had finally started winning back the respect of a lot of people who once abandoned him. For me, the effects of this fall almost prevented me from recovering. Nearinga nervous breakdown, I pondered a horrifying question: “If he could fall when he had “everything,” what could ever stop this from happening again?” This fall left me hopeless for the first time in our marriage.
My God had different plans, however.Failing in this marriage was not an option. The words of a guest evangelist, three days after the fall, reminded me not to let the lion devourour household. The devil comes to steal, kill,and destroy, and we were perfect prey. I came home from hearing that message and immediately recommitted to my marriage. I had to commit to being all-in, unwavering, and unstoppable.
By putting God back at the center of our relationship, we were able to have full restoration of our marriage, and many amazing miracles happened because of it. We became mentors for the college and career group at our church, my husband landed an amazing job, he went back to college, we gained custody of his son, and finally, we purchased my dream home on a lake. Not only did ALL these miracles happen, but they all happened in less than a year of almost giving up and walking away from my commitment to marriage.
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