To combat against a lukewarm relationship, my husband and I have placed a large value on the journey in our lives. Oftentimes this journey is on uncharted territory, therefore preventing any predictability. We don't follow the norms other marriages do. We prefer to take each other's hand and head in the direction where there is no path already sculpted. Why you ask? Because going against the routine of a typical marriage forces us to communicate constantly, rely on each other, and share experiences that are fresh and new each day.
So what are these uncharted paths? These paths will most likely be different for everyone. For us however, it includes taking small risks, dreaming big, AND remaining best friends. When you are in a relationship with your best friend you desire to try new things with them. You desire to succeed with them. We have found this to be why we have overcome so much hardship in our relationship. No matter what comes our way, we would never want to lose our best friend, so we work at all costs to ensure that never happens.
Our journey into the unknown involves a lot of dreaming and goal setting. This keeps our communication fresh and allows us to enjoy the journey. For instance, we love discussing how we are going to become millionaires some day. We love encouraging each other as each milestone is achieved. This brings in the fun and adventure into marriage. If you're doing it with your best friend, then you are sure to have a marriage that is unbreakable.
"Let marriage be held in honor among all." Hebrews 13:4
So find excitement in your marriage again:
- Don't act like other couples act
- Dare to be different
- Take risks
- Try new things
- Dream big
- Be best friends
Communicate, Rely On, Share