Every year I tell my husband that we need to slow down in our lives. Yet, year after year it seems as if our schedules become even more cluttered and more overscheduled. How can we have “normal” lives if we are working all day, checking our emails all night, working on projects until midnight, and not taking breaks on weekends or even during vacations? Last night I posed the question of possibly committing to NO technology over our vacation. My husband immediately turned white with fear and didn't even reply to my request. Why can’t we unplug? If I can find any comfort in the answer, at least I know we aren’t the only couple that struggles with constantly being plugged into everything. That still doesn’t make it alright though!
We set aside time for God, but it’s never enough. We set aside time for each other, but it’s never enough. We rarely set aside time for our entire family, and with two young college-bound men for sons, we may be missing our last opportunities with them. We have goals, ambitions, work demands, church demands and physical demands. Honestly, most nights I want to break down and cry because of the overwhelming number of tasks and deadlines we need to complete.
In Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (MSG), the word says, “There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth. A time to (for):
God’s word is great at providing clear direction as to how we are supposed to keep order in our lives. He gives us these guidelines to show not only the limitations we need to set on ourselves mentally and physically but also so we can give time for the spiritual. How is it that God gives such easy direction on how to live a stress free life yet we won’t listen? He’s even given us the gift of the Holy Spirit to comfort us and we still find ways to take control back over.
I would like to challenge you to join my family over the next 30 days. Commit to making some changes in how you schedule your life. Don’t find yourself regretting the years that mysteriously passed by. Even if you have to schedule specific time in your calendar so you set the time aside…DO IT! Over the next month, think about the opportune time to do things such as time for:
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One way to lead your marriage to destruction is to put technology before your spouse. Today this trend is becoming more common. Why can't we put our computers and phones away and just spend time with our spouse? What happened to the days where couples communicated face-to-face without distractions?
Don't let this happen to your marriage. Take time to reflect on your relationship and be honest with yourself about your technology use. Are you finding more enjoyment in your technology then in your spouse? Are you more excited to spend time on the computer then talking with your spouse? Are your Facebook and other "social media" friends more important to you then your spouse?
Being on the receiving end of this type of relationship can be extremely lonely. There are times when personally I feel like I mean little to my husband or that I no longer interest him because of the time he spends connected to other things besides me. Have you ever felt this way? Have you ever considered how your spouse feels when you always have your face pointed at a screen? Is your intimacy suffering because of it?
I challenge you to fast from technology and reignite a spark in your marriage. Don't downplay the significance of your misuse. Once loneliness enters a marriage, depression or adultery is not far behind. Be proactive and take your marriage back! Put God first and then your husband or wife! Technology MUST be last.