There is hope! Try some of the steps I have personally implemented in my life experiences:
- If possible, pull addicted person from the environment of negative influence; it is helpful if they aren’t exposed to usual triggers or have access to usual channels.
- Do not enable them; much easier said than done because we want to help so much. We must realize the best help we can give is to not enable them. Set boundaries and enforce those boundaries with consequences and rewards.
- Coach and mentor them on new ways to use their energy and to change their perspective on life. This can go a long way because addicts carry a lot of guilt of things they have done to disappoint the people they love.
- Introduce them to Jesus. I believe with all my heart that a relationship with Jesus is the only way to release yourself from the guilt and pain of an addiction. That relationship opens the door to the Holy Spirit. There is peace and power to break chains of addiction when the gift of the Holy Spirit is received.
- Finally, as hard as it is, keep encouraging them to reach their potential without throwing their past in their face.
- Work on yourself as a loved one to free yourself from the fear, anxiety, and unforgiveness. Get help and support from someone you trust and can confide in. Don't face this mountain alone.
It’s on ongoing battle to deal with addictions. Life is unpredictable, uncontrollable and stressful. We have to give hope to these lost and weary people in our lives. They have potential, a flame that the devil is trying to extinguish, but we must not let them drown in their environment. We have to deliver them to safety and a future.
If you would like personal help in your situation please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I also have personal experiences to share in my book "Whole Armor of Marriage."